Forgive

I teared when I heard this particular song today- Good Good Father.

Today, I learnt that by forgiving others, you are liberating yourself and you are not holding on to something that is hurting you. When you extend forgiveness to others, you are also healing yourself at the same time.

The most important words that hit me were these,

The windows of forgiveness may not be opened forever.

Today is a very different day. I went for my first ukulele jamming, and afterwards I felt this pull to just drop by my dad’s place. I didn’t make any prior arrangement though because…

If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. (A little background, my dad left and was not with us during our growing years – the only time we saw each other was during my grandparents funeral)

If this is the time for me to forgive and reconnect, then things will eventually work out somehow. If it’s not, then it’s not the moment yet.

Today, I took the courage to reconnect with my earthly dad who I have not kept in contact for a long long time due to various reasons and person.

Taking the first step is the hardest.

I went to the house and knocked on the door 3 times. After realising that no one was at home, I went to the field and stood there for a while, trying to analyse certain things. I thought I would give myself 10 minutes to wait, and eventually I see no sign of him. Just when I was about to leave, my dad appeared!

You see, things work in ways we cannot explain.

I was so thrilled and I am relieved that I took this leap of faith. For the longest time, I have been carrying that burden and now it was lifted.

The power of forgiveness and the use of the right words… I am just grateful, ever grateful, ever thankful.

Most importantly, the many encouragements I have received along the way really helps a lot to bring me to this stage of forgiveness.

I forgive him for all the wrong doings.

I felt relieved.

I felt light.

I know I am loved by many.

Today, I also received my dad’s blessings.

That, to me, is one of the greatest blessings.

I am blessed.

Forgiveness is one of the best forms of love.

Above all, I forgive and I am also forgiven.

🌹

The grass is greener where you water

It is often said that, ‘The grass is greener on the other side of the fence.’

It is all about perception.

That is especially true when that patch of grass in your garden is crispy and brown and it might even feel tempting to go to the other side of the fence. Often, we look at the other side, and thought to ourselves, if only we stay in that big house, if only we are more successful and richer, how loving is their spouse, how caring that person is etc… sometimes, a new person or stranger or even a friend might cause us to think that the grass is greener elsewhere.

But, did you not realise that it could be because you forgot to water that patch of grass in your garden. Grass needs water and maintenance, just like a relationship and well being.

When you take a second to reflect, you realise that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. The grass is greener where you water it.

If we dedicate time and energy to the area we are in, the grass where you are will grow and become greener. Take care of it, fertilise it, water the grass where it is.

Exploring situation

Life is complex. It is not just a single situation on it’s own or a single thing that happens. It consisted of various factors that make the equation balanced. A difficult situation consisted of many circumstances that occur resulting in how you feel, react and act on it.

Imagine you’re baking a cake. If you were to consider eating butter, eggs, flour, sugar or any other ingredient in a cake all by itself, you would wind up with a mess that tastes awful. No one puts a tablespoon of flour straight into their mouth. You just don’t do that.

What you do, instead, is blend them together in order to create a cake. Something delightful results out of the combination, not out of each thing examined and eaten on its own.

Similarly, your destiny results out of the combination of providential ingredients mixed together and often, like a cake baked in an oven, is sealed through the heat and fire of testing, trials and challenges.

When you and I look at our individual situations on their own, it’s often easy to feel overwhelmed or less-than-satisfied. That’s why wrapping your mind around the link between providence and sovereignty is essential in motivating your participation. Otherwise, you may just want to give up instead.